I’m feeling a bit burnt out from freelance work today and I’m not up to writing Part 2 of my previous post tonight. Speaking of burnt though I mixed up a new batch of homemade facial scrub this morning. I do believe I put too much lemon juice in it this time because wow did that burn…er tingle excessively when I applied it! I don’t know if it cleansed my pores or burned them off but my face actually looked quite lovely after the shower. Oh how we women suffer for beauty!
My little skin care adventure this morning reminded me of a post I wrote in my Corbin Creations blog. Yes, I’m reposting again. Rolling your eyes is quite acceptable as long as you return them to their normal reading position promptly.
The piece I’m reposting is entitled “Don’t Cry with Makeup On” and it’s quite useful advice. I actually used to wear makeup more often than I do now. As I don’t go into an office every day it seems silly to put on lipstick and mascara for Jazzmin to admire. I also used to apply chemical products to my face to try to combat the passage of time but now I prefer a more natural approach. My face might not resemble flawless marble like it does on those women in commercials but I’ve taken care of my skin and protected it from the sun. I choose natural beauty even though it means being pale and showing my freckles. Not to mention that when I cry, it doesn’t physically sting as much…
Don’t Cry with Makeup On – 9/5/2012
I was texting my best friend yesterday evening and I jokingly told her that I should write a self-help book entitled “Don’t Cry with Makeup On.” It really is good advice actually. The reason I recommended removing your makeup before crying is not because I’m concerned your mascara will run or your blush will streak, but because it hurts! It hurts crying with makeup on because the stuff gets in your damp eyes and burns! I’ve made the mistake of crying after I applied anti-wrinkle cream more than once and that pain is even worse! Alpha hydroxy and tear ducts do not get along.
I do understand that fits of crying do not always wait until one is safely home and free of the day’s makeup but if you can make it home after a rough day and know the tears are coming, whip out the makeup remover towelettes and take that important first step. Wait to apply anti-aging cream until after…if you can even still see where your eyes were. I am not implying that only women cry, I know men cry even if they won’t admit it. Do I think everyone cries as much as I do? Certainly not. Do I think there’s something wrong with me because I cry as much as I do? Heck no! I held a majority of my emotions inside for most of my life, especially the negative ones. I had no problem expressing joy, amusement, excitement but sadness, forget it. I knew once I let that dam break it would never be whole again and I feared the weak, worthless creature I’d become.
Here’s the kicker though, it isn’t weak to cry; it’s called being human. If we weren’t meant to feel then we wouldn’t have been blessed with emotions. Yes, I said blessed. Me, the woman who now cries at the drop of a hat so well she could star in an overly dramatic soap opera, believes that emotions are a blessing. Do not misconstrue what I’m saying and think that I’m sad all the time because I’m not. I have accepted though that there are certain things that I can’t think about without crying. My father’s death, my mother still without a man who loves her, my oldest daughter’s sensitivity, my youngest daughter’s developmental delays, my friends’ pain, my myriad of creatively broken hearts, my constantly misbehaving car…these things make me cry. I don’t cry because I’ve given up hope, I will never do that, I cry because I feel.
Feeling is good and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! There may be times in your life when you have to store away emotions until they can be tackled at a time you have more strength and that’s fine. Just remember to tackle them first or they will overcome you. None of us can really master our emotions completely, it’s like trying to tame a wild animal. That wild animal might be sweet and cute as a domestic pet until one day their instinct takes over and they remember the wildness in their blood that enabled them to survive and evolve. Never forget that we humans are animals too and we are constantly evolving and if we do it right, we evolve into better versions of ourselves.
A good cry really can do wonders and if you have a shoulder to cry on, that’s even better. I have friends who are there in spirit offering their shoulder and that is a great thing. I also have my lovable pup Jazzmin who is always at my side when I cry and she never minds if I get her fur all wet as I hug her. She will also lift her paw for a friendly shake as if to say “I understand, Mama, now give me some paw” and that always makes me smile and laugh. Having a friend, lover or pet who can make you laugh amid your tears is a huge bonus. Laughter is an expression of joy and it is just as vital as expressing sadness. Do not wallow in your sadness, that is not its purpose of being. Sadness is a cleansing emotion and expressing and releasing it facilitates the arrival of more light and energy into your spirit and your life. The sun always breaks through the storm eventually and when your tears dry (and the puffiness of your eyes diminishes) you will finally be able to clearly see the beauty of the sky above and accept all the gifts bestowed upon you.